Managing Relationships

     The infinite potential that exists pushes us forward from negative to positive. (1) Shaping a relationship requires a vision or program which improves the future. Otherwise, the relationship will decompose. (2) The most effective programs are adaptable. The miracle of human consciousness is its adaptability. Our weaknesses allow transformation, healing, learning. So, if you discover that the relationship you desire is decomposing remember that you can adapt. (3) according to Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD. being considerate of your needs and others' needs gives you control in the relationship. If you don't know what needs your partner is trying to satisfy you are lost. The relationship exists for the purpose of satisfying one's needs. And one's feelings are a response to how well your needs are being satisfied. (4) People need cooperation. If you do what your partner wants half the time you create a balanced, stable relationship which is a foundation for growth. To simplify the four things a relationship requires is (1) a program, (2) adaptability, (3) awareness of needs and (4) stability as a foundation for growth. I had been faithfully married for seventeen years. My wife died prematurely. The success of our relationship was based on our mutually satisfying each others' needs. And when things got tough we worked it out, we adapted. If the economy was as stable as our love for each other we could have been better providers for our children. We had two beautiful children and my wife had three children from a previous relationship. Because women are not treated as equals she was very dissatisfied. But true love can heal all suffering!